Dear Blogger, Don’t Be Discouraged

It’s 2:00 am.ย You have dedicated your heart and soul into this post. Sleep is out of the question because you are feeling inspired by the content you are talking about. After you’ve completed your masterpiece, you go to sleep feeling nervous but excited and determined all at the same time about your upcoming post going live.

Morning hits and you turn on your computer, access your blog, and POST. You are feeling pretty good about it. You’re also feeling nervous, but overall good. It’s day three since the post has been live and no one has noticed it. The purpose you felt so strongly about is now, slowly but surely, slipping away.

I want to share with you two of my fears as a new blogger and ways to overcome them. Now, I am no expert, but I hope you’ll come out of this realizing you are not alone in those feelings.

Fear No. 1 – No one cares about my content.

Reality: Many have not seen it yet! It is so true. If you are a new blogger, I’m sure you’re familiar with SEO. You can’t exactly study SEO in one day and rank the next. It takes time and so much patience to pop up into search engines. Don’t feel that your content is not worth writing about. There is always someone interested in what you have got to say, you just haven’t found them yet.

Possible solutions: Join blogger support groups in forums or Facebook to help get your content out there. Advertise on social media and utilize hashtags. Engage in other blogger’s posts to bring some attention to yourself as well as create possible supportive friendships.

Write. Just write. You can always fix bad pages but you can't fix NO pages.

Fear No. 2 – My friends are not supportive.

Reality: Just because you go off on this venture and announce it to your friends, it does not mean they will be your biggest fans. There could be so many reasons for this but here are just four possible reasons:

  1. Quite frankly, they might not be interested in the content you are putting out. Don’t be offended. Everyone has different taste and you might even find that if they begin blogging one day, you feel the same way about their work.
  2. They are busy! I don’t know about you, but being a mom, a lot of my friends are also mothers with lives full of little ones. Just because you are consumed with blogging, that doesn’t mean they are consumed with reading your blog.
  3. They don’t know how to support you. This is very true for so many. Many times, friends and family don’t know how to support you. Simple solution for this? Talk to them! Ask them to share, or engage in your posts. Maybe you need encouraging text messages now and then or a pep talk once a week. Be sincere and clear that you want their support and how.
  4. They probably don’t even realize you’ve put content out! Yes, this happens! In this busy world, there is so much content already being thrown at your friends and family. Don’t let yours get lost in the mix by contacting them when you have new content up. By doing this, you also show your friends and family that their input and support means a lot to you.

Look, in a world of flying pigs and unicorns, everyone would support everyone and know just the right way to do it. This is not that world. Don’t feel entitled to support from your friends and family and cause that to create a bitterness in your heart! If you really want their support, reach out to them. A blogger friend of mine suggested that when I was feeling discouraged and she couldn’t have been more correct. (Thank you!)



When my mind is feeling clouded by all of my doubts, I try and remind myself why I am doing this. In everything we do, I believe it’s important to lay out your reasons for doing them. That is why I created a simple PDF printable just for you. Use this printable to lay down the reasons you are doing what you are doing. Once you’ve completed it, put it somewhere visible. When you start having doubts again, read it out loud to yourself!

Why I'm doing this

Click Here to Download the “Why I Am Doing This” PDF Printable


Lastly, I cannot emphasize this enough, but don’t forget to take time away from the computer to get some fresh air, love on your loved ones, and fill your cup. There’s no other therapy like getting hugs from my daughter and encouragement from my husband.


With so much love,

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Now, I want to share an inspirational video that helped me get out of bed last week. I hope it can pour some inspiration into your life.
Dream – Motivational Video


What are some of your struggles today? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!

25 thoughts on “Dear Blogger, Don’t Be Discouraged

  1. This resonates on many levels! I felt like this at the start but have found such great support from fellow bloggers too! And it is so true to ask for support when you need it, that’s what friends are for!

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  2. Thanks, I needed this today! I love the print out and plan on using it. Do I wish to make money from my blog? YES. But, I started it for a creative outlet and to force myself to document our travels.

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  3. I love this! I have been struggling with my close friends not supporting etc. and just feeling like I’m wasting my time but I know deep down that’s not true!! We must keep pushing and working our hardest and writer our hearts out ๐Ÿ’—

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  4. Oh my gosh! This is similar to what my next post is going to be about! Great minds think alike! Thank you so much for the encouragement. Can’t get enough ๐Ÿ™‚

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  5. This was a really good article. A topic most think about but don’t write it out. When I first started blogging, very little of my friends supported me. But in time I changed my content to where there is a lot of benefits for them for reading my blogs, and surely some of them have come around. I guess, the main way I see it it, is that friends are really not even my target market. I would rather get support from people who are genuinely interested and I do that by focusing on my target market (fitness/health).


  6. Lose this post! I agree, if you are doing it from the heart and love what you do there is no reason to get discouraged ๐Ÿ™‚


  7. Love this! Most days I have to fight away the negativity I feel about posting up a blog. I easily become unmotivated and start thinking no one even likes what I’m putting out there. But this was a great reminder to keep going! Thanks!


  8. Being a blogger is tough. It causes you to be stretched to encourage growth. I am grateful that I have embraced this journey is has shown me that I tend to compare myself to others and that I shouldn’t, because I have been uniquely created by God and God alone.


  9. As a brand new blogger, I can really relate to this! My blog is just a bit over one month old at this point and I am still learning about SEO and how to share my content/increase traffic. It can be very difficult, especially, as you mentioned, when we’re so busy working and living our lives. It’s a lot to juggle and a lot to learn! We can’t be too hard on ourselves.After all, we started blogging because of our passion for writing (and the subjects we write about), right? ๐Ÿ™‚


  10. My family is definitely a hassle to overlook whenever I try to look for encouragement. They’re not exactly that supportive of what I want to do, and the smallest mistakes or missteps are seen as something to hang over my head and make me feel guilt over. For a very long time, I feared going into blogging, because I felt like because my family didn’t support me, no one else will. But I’ve just completed my first full week as a blogger, and the support and love I’ve received is overabundant! Thanks so much for this post! You’ve earned a new follower through me. ๐Ÿ˜€


  11. First I love your verse you posted. I defiantly relate to everything you explained. I try not to take it personal and stay focused on the bigger picture. This was defiantly helpful to read.


  12. Whoa!!! This is excellent! So encouraging! It’s quite easy to feel kinda lonely and feel like writing your content sometimes is just pointless, especially when you are a new blogger. But this post really lays out the truth in a simple way and helps all of us newbies not feel/be discouraged! Loved the PDF you created! ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for sharing such an honest perspective about bloggers’ fears!


  13. We talked about it in a group…. and yes, sometimes it’s really tough to accept that maybe nobody has seen your content, maybe your friends don’t even like it… but it’s either only for now or they are not your target audience and that’s perfectly ok ๐Ÿ™‚


  14. This is one of the BEST post with blogging advice that I have ever read. It is full of empathy and compassion and it’s written from a place of experience! I was almost in tears! Even two years into blogging I need to hear these encouraging words!!!! Thank you so much! I will be sharing this on my social pages!!!!


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